How PCOS Affects Relationships

PCOS affects your body, your mind, and your relationships — your whole life, really. How PCOS affects relationships is different for each woman, of course, but there are a number of things that we seem to have in common:

  1. People just don’t get why PCOS is so hard.

Even though PCOS is surprisingly common (up to one in five women), most people have never heard of it. That means they have no idea what it’s about. And when you explain that it’s Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, they focus on the ovarian part, which is only one part. The name doesn’t even remotely explain the complex physical, energetic and emotional aspects of PCOS.

  1. PCOS makes relationships harder.

How PCOS affects relationships depends on the nature of the diagnosis, and especially on the people involved. Perhaps you are dealing with the shock of a new diagnosis. Perhaps you have known for a long time and are still struggling to get your body into balance. Regardless of where you are relative to your diagnosis, PCOS is going to affect your relationships.  

  1. PCOS leaves us with less energy for relationships.

Unless you’ve already figured out how to balance your hormones, diet, exercise, sleep and stress, PCOS will drain your energy. You can expect to have less energy than someone without PCOS. (If you have not yet found a healthful balance, contact me to learn about my PCOS coaching services.) PCOS is invisible to most people. They assume everyone else has as much energy as they do and can’t imagine you’re “sick” when you don’t look sick.

  1. PCOS leaves us more vulnerable to the effects of stress.

Due to the way our hormonal imbalances affect our brains, we are more susceptible to stress than the average woman. When you’re stressed out, you’re more likely to be moody, reactive, irritable, short-tempered, and downright angry. You can see how PCOS affects relationships in a bad way when those symptoms are not properly handled. People don’t like being around people who are always in a bad mood.

  1. PCOS has embarrassing physical symptoms.

Hirsutism (excess body and facial hair), thinning hair, obesity, acne and other skin issues are all part of the PCOS picture. Many women with PCOS are uncomfortable with their bodies, and even embarrassed to the point of avoiding social or romantic relationships altogether.


How PCOS affects relationships, overall, is by reducing the number and quality of relationships. We are stronger and more emotionally healthy when we have numerous relationships that are open, honest and authentic. Clearly, hiding out because you’re tired, moody, or feeling shame about your body can make depression symptoms worse. Understanding how PCOS affects your relationships is the first step to improving them.

Be sure to join my private Facebook group, PCOS Psychology. We talk about how PCOS affects relationships, medical stuff, mood swings, anxiety, food issues, and other PCOS symptoms. I check in there daily and try to respond to every post personally.


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Khusee says

I m very glad to know about the problems that were hidden in myself.

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